Perfectionism
Your standards are too high.
At least that’s what people keep telling you.
But is it wrong to expect excellence from other people? You don’t think so, especially when you expect and demand excellence from yourself. Those self-inflicted demands cause you to work tirelessly to make sure that everything is perfect.
Your attention to detail is impeccable because you believe that making a mistake is unacceptable. And if you make a mistake – you lie in bed at night and replay what you should have done differently.
There is no room for mistakes! So, if you can survive all that, then why should other people be let off the hook so easily?
You must be in control of everything.
Well, duh! You think, “If I’m not in control, then who will be? Who can I trust to do things as good as I can?” In your mind, the answer is no one.
You’ve always been the one to take care of things when it felt like life was falling apart. Being in control has kept your life and your family going.
What happens when you lose control? You have no idea because there’s nothing in the world that would make you give up your control.
On the outside, everything looks good.
You have a lovely house, a fancy car, and an excellent job. People think you have it all together.
But looking inside is a whole different story – and that’s precisely how you want it to be.
Letting people know that you’re struggling would mean you must ask for help, and asking for help is painful for you.
When you’ve needed people, they didn’t show up. They never call to check on you because they all think that you’ll be okay.
You got this and can take care of it. At least, that’s what you tell yourself.
But nothing you do ever feels like enough.
You’ve accomplished many things, yet they mean nothing.
Because there’s always more to do, there’s always more to achieve, always the next thing.
You can’t take the time to pause and celebrate because you might somehow get complacent. So, every day, you show up for more hustle and grind.
But you’re running on fumes.
You don’t have to be perfect to be worthy.
Reread the above statement.
You get to take a break, take time off, and celebrate. The world won’t fall apart without you.
What you can DO does not define your worth and value – your worth and value are who you are.
And while you might not feel like who you are is enough, we can help you get there.
Imagine a different life – one where you are not hard on yourself.
What if you embraced your imperfections, flaws, and all – and showed up without needing to pretend like everything is okay?
Imagine what it would be like if you could ask for help and delegate tasks to others.
How would it feel if you celebrated the small wins in your life?
Can you even let yourself dream of taking a break, resting, and not replaying conversations from the day over and over in your head?
Stop pretending and start celebrating your life.
We can help you find life beyond perfectionism. You have so much to offer, and it’s time to focus on yourself, delegate, and celebrate.
Through compassion, exploration, and challenging limiting beliefs, we’re here to help you learn to be kinder to yourself, recognize your incredible value and feel empowered (rather than ashamed) to own that value.
It’s okay to ask us for help. We want to show up for you, and we will embrace you just as you are.