Mom and Dad fighting were the norm.
The constant yelling and arguing was something that you expected. So, you did everything you could to keep yourself out of the line of fire.
You went to school and received excellent grades. You were the perfect student and child – on the outside.
Keeping up those appearances helped prevent others from knowing what was happening at home. You kept a smile plastered on your face at all times.
If you kept your head down, hopefully, your parents wouldn’t pull you into their fights.
Knowing the source of your next meal was uncertain.
Early in life, you learned what it means to figure things out because there was so much uncertainty.
Your mother did the best she could, but it’s hard to raise a family while you’re working all the time to make ends meet.
Instead, you received the responsibility of caring for your siblings, even though you could barely care for yourself. Who else was going to hold down the house while mom was gone?
And you certainly weren’t going to ask for help because…
What happens in this house stays in the house.
You never felt like you could talk to anyone about what was happening in your house.
Even though you knew your uncle’s touching was inappropriate and wrong, you feared more of what would happen if you told someone in your house about what was happening.
So, you sucked it up. To this day, no one in your family knows.
“It is what it is.”
Instead of speaking up, you found other ways to cope.
Pushing those memories away seemed like the best option.
You tell yourself, “Other people have had it worse than me.”
It’s in the past and shouldn’t still be bothering you. You’re “fine.” Right?
Wrong! You’re not “fine.”
Accepting the responsibility to take care of everyone else is the burden you still bear because you’re used to controlling things amid chaos.
You continue to strive to be the perfect child even though you’re a fully grown adult because you believe that being perfect is what kept you safe.
Sexual experiences and relationships are complicated because you were robbed of your innocence before you were ready.
Now, it’s hard for you to connect with people – all relationships are subpar.
And even though you are “well adjusted,” there’s an underlying sense that something isn’t quite right because of the things that have happened in your past.
Let’s heal the wounds.
There’s a reason you still feel off after all these years. And that’s because trauma stays with us long after it happens.
Time does not heal all wounds, especially not the ones that alter our entire sense of being.
But it is possible to heal from trauma.
We’ll make sure that the trauma you experienced in the past no longer haunts your present.
If you’re ready to move on from your past, we’re prepared to support you.
Our goal is to help create the space for you to process these experiences, find a resolution, and ultimately find peace.
We will meet you where you are on your unique journey to healing from trauma – whether you are beginning to notice the effects of your past or are years into the process.
You don’t have to suffer in silence.
This is a safe space for you to break the silence and finally find freedom from your past.